I was recently speaking with a client who, when I asked what he used to measure success looked like, he advised that he wanted to be just as successful as their brother, if not more so.
This may sound like a reasonable goal, however the reality is that measuring success against others is the wrong mindset.
Put another way, identifying and measuring our own individual success results not from comparing who we are or what we have against others; instead it results from defining who we want to become as an individual, definitively and constructively.
Consider how you measure success as compared to the following questions:
- Do you measure your achievements based on setting your own goals or pursuing similar goals to others?
- Example: I want to have a job and house like John does.
- Do you compare and justify your inability to achieve goals against those around you, making you feel more comfortable in the process?
- Example: I wasn’t able to finish the course, but neither was Sally or Frank.
- Do you fixate on what success looks like rather than see success as fluid?
- Example: I want to earn a million dollars and don’t care how I get it!
- Do you take a sheltered and close minded view as to how to pursue success?
- Example: I just need to do what Julie does to be successful.
- Do you reject outside views on achieving success that differ from yours?
- Example: I’m not finishing this book because it is too far out there.
Success results from being open-minded and holding a broad and fluid view of the world and those within it. As the old saying goes, there is more than one way to skin a cat (no I don’t mean that literally!)
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